Yes this blog is outrageously upbeat these days. I’m sorry if this annoys you, uncannily happy people used to bug me too! In fact most of you don’t know this blog to be anything but nerdy-weird-nutzo 100% all the time. But the honest truth is, I’ve written my fair share of pitty party posts, which all have been deleted from the archives but they still happened and can’t be completely erased from history. It’s like toothpaste; once it’s squeezed out, you can’t put it back in.
Everyone has been through tough “stuff”. F’s on tests, friends turned enemies, people being un-trust worthy, car accidents, health issues, family issues, etc. In a nut shell, everyone has been wounded. And in some way everyone finds different ways to get through the day whether or not they have healed from their wounds.
I’ve been through more than my fair share of “stuff” in the last 7 years. And I lived in it, dwelled in it, was depressed, and did things I truly regret because I was trying to deal with it all.
Coping isn’t something I understood until recently. I figured one day I’d have all kinds of closure from everything that happened to me. Certain people would acknowledge their wrongs, I’d gain enough success in various aspects of my life that I’d feel worthy, and that I’d get justification for how I acted in response to everything. I’d been waiting for this from one situation to another for 7 years.
Coping isn’t about justification or closure (I will never get the closure I want/need to completely heal from what happened to me) it’s about figuring out what you have to do to get you through the day.
This is why I’m nerdy. This is why I’m nutzo. This is why I run, eat froyo 9 times a week, sometimes have to skip a workout for no reason other than to skip a workout, do slurpee dances, and take silly pictures. It’s what helps me get through the day.
I don’t think I’m special, everyone has been wounded in one way or another. Someone’s F can be just as painful as someone else’s unfathomable drama because everyone is different. I just know I’ve found a way for me to get through life in a way that I’m proud of. What more can someone ask for?
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This is such a great post. I totally agree with you that coping isn’t about closure. I feel like that’s what so many people believe it’s about. But coping with health problems, will never be closure for them, because well… they’re chronic :P Coping is so important though. And it’s soo personal. We all need to find out own way rather than just googling “how do I cope?”. Good schtuff girly :]
I love the upbeat!! It’s why I read blogs so keep it up! And I agree completely. I’ve kind of been feeling sorry for myself about not being gainfully employed right now, but this morning it was totally put on my mind to pray for someone. And then I realized how much worse things must seem for them, but they handle it better than me. Like a double blessing. They got prayed for, and I got encouraged. Lol. Hey, I hope you have a great day! :)
I love how god works in the most mysterious ways.
i love your blog bc I can completely relate to your zanyness (i’m nutso 100% of the time)…I think that having an upbeat attitude is one of the best things a person can have. it takes more energy to sit and sulk and be pessimistic and honestly, where does that get you?
keep doing YOU! you are awesome!
Aww, I’m glad to hear someone else is nutzo too! And thanks for your kind words. I love your blog too.
If being nutzo is what works for you, then I say bring on the nutzo – more power to you!