Hey guys! You are all too sweet. My inbox was flooded with worried Where are you?! e-mails yesterday. I knew by the fifth one that I needed to get a post up as quick as possible. I didn’t want anyone sending out a Mission Persons report.
See… ALIVE!
So what’s been going on? Well, I had a really unexpected job opportunity pop up last week and I spent most of Thursday at an interview. Then Max and I left early Friday morning (like 5am early) for Tahoe to do a little Max-family get-together. So Thursday to Sunday I was without internet. Then yesterday I felt pretty sick from being away from home and eating new foods so I spend the day on the sofa trying to recover.
I don’t even know what pictures are on my SD card so I’m just putting them up in the order they come up in.
I’m so bad at making decisions. I feel like either way I’m saying no to someone, which I am. I don’t like letting people down. I’m also not a huge fan of change. Change totally freaks me out because it’s unknown and scary.
I guess even though I’m tall (5 foot 10) when decisions pop up and change might happen I feel like a little Chihuahua dog and get all shaky/barky/growly because I feel like I might be getting attacked. Then I crawl into a really small-dark space and take a huge nap.
The title of this post is focused on making lemonade when you get lemons… I really hate this phrase because I don’t like lemonade. Sometimes I just want to wallow with my lemons!!!
Anyways I do design work for my little design business at both my work computer and my home computer. It’s great and I use DropBox to transport my files. Well this morning I realized that Dropbox lost all my design files so everything I’d done/was working on is lost. I have to make everything over again from scratch. GAH!!!
This on top of being overwhelmed about new jobs is just like… really?!?!
Maybe I’d like lemonade better if it were mixed with a little vodka and had an umbrella in it?
Everything get’s better when it’s got an umbrella hanging out of it. Oh and let’s make it strawberry lemonade so it’s pink!!!
Pink Lemonade with Umbrella = Crisis averted!
Looking at all these pictures I think you got breakfast 2-3 times, lunch twice, some snacks and a lot of dark chocolate!
HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH UNEXPECETD DECISIONS, SAYING “NO” TO PEOPLE, & POSSIBLE CHANGE??
I need to learn from all of you how to be a normal person and deal!
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Dropbox is so SKETCH! I have lost a couple things as well!
I know!! I’m not using it any more. This is killing my day!
Oh gosh, I reallllly struggle with saying no to things. I’m such a people pleaser, so I definitely struggle with making group decisions or saying no. I think what helps me (at times, definitely doesn’t work allll of the time), is that I know I have to stick up for myself and say NO if I really don’t want to do something or eat something unfamiliar.
Specifically with food, I get a lot of comments from friends/people I hang out with about what I choose to eat/choose not to eat. This definitely does bother me, but I know that I make my choices for a reason because it’s what is best for me :)
Girl, it’s HARD! I definitely would like to read other peoples strategies as well.
It is so hard! Especially with food. I feel like I always sacrifice how I’d really eat to be less high maintenance. I also will eat something I don’t really want so I don’t get asked why I chose what I chose. I hate it when everyone is ordering burgers and I want a salad and I know if I get the salad I’ll get the 3rd degree.
Yay! Glad to see you’re okay. I may be a Libra but I am an unbalanced Libra making me very indecisive and sickly when I have to make a huge decision. I have slowly learned to trust my gut. Sure, I’ll be stressing about it, running the logistics of it in my head round and round til I get sick, but as long as I feel that it is the right decision, then I go with it. That and the wise support of my family helps me through it too.
I also have a hard time saying no. But that too is getting better. Sometimes you just have to say no for your own sanity. It’s hard, because you may not want to disappoint people, but you got to do what feels right for you wether it is making a decision or saying no.
Trust your first initial instinct. That usually is the right way to go.
I love lemons and lemonade :D My favorite non alcoholic drink. Though Limoncello is particularly amazing. Give me a bushel of lemons and I will make that! Yum.
And I agree, everything is better with little umbrellas in it :)
Margaritas at Whole Enchilada?? ;)
I think it’s awesome that you bring up the Whole Enchilada!!! I seriously went there for 4 birthdays as a kid just because they put those mermaids in the drinks. LOL. We should totally do a meet up there if you want to!
Aww…I’m sorry you’re stressing, girl. At least you have a new opportunity…that’s always good! Whatever you decide, I’m sure you’ll make the right decision. I’m really bad at making big life decisions, that’s why I’m so grateful to have David help me weigh the pros and cons. Talk it over and discuss it with people you love. :)
Yeah I’ve been talking it out with max and my mom a lot. IT’s always so helpful to get a little outside perspective.
So happy you’re back!!!!! I hope all is good on the new job front!! I am actually really bad at saying no and it is something I need to get better at! I know you have so much on your plate right now but try not to stress! I just read an article about changing your have to’s to get to’s! Enjoy what’s going on but also make sure you’re taking time for you!!!!
I like that idea… have to’s should be get to’s. I get to get a new job (maybe). Such great advice!!!
Ahh, change is so scary!! I’m in the midst of a potentially life-changing decision and it’s all sorts of stressful so I totally know how you’re feeling. I try to remind myself that no matter what decision I make everything will work out in the end. And the stress of deciding between 2 jobs is always better than the stress of having no job, right? :)
You’re so right. Once I decide everything will go back to normal and work out. And having 2 possible jobs is totally better than 1. Good luck making your own decision. I know you’ll make the one that’s best for you.
I was worried about you but knew that you were the type of person (unlike myself!) who knows how to take a step back and take care of themselves. seems like you have been sticking with your healthy eating which is great. i am intrigued by this job thing and think you should go with what feels right for YOU at this moment. You have a lot going on so maybe a change could be good or bad. Oh no about the files! Hope you can recover it all.
Glad you are back, you sure were missed.
that stinks you lost all your designs :( I hope your ideas come back to you with ease! silly technology, always getting in our way.
also, I’m really glad you’re alive. :)
I bought 3 wines for wine of the week this weekend. I’m so excited.
yessssssss.
I missed you chica! But I’m glad you took a few days to yourself.
Saying NO can be hard, but I have learned to do it when need be. My main focus in life is the well being of myself and family, so if something is going to overly stress me or them out, I just say no. I have also learned that it is okay to ask for a day or 2 before giving a decision. If they can’t give you that, you should have said no to begin with, so good for you in the long run.
That’s such a smart way to look at it. “Just say no”. Or yes if it’s the right decision. Gah, I don’t know.
Saying no can be really hard! But so can doing something you don’t want to do. I think a lot in the food realm about how people give you crap when you eat healthy – it’s just the atmosphere we live in. I think people are getting healthier and hopefully people who try to eat healthily will be ragged on less often :)
But – for a job – my friend gave me good advice. She said to imagine telling someone about my choice and why I picked it, and think about how I would feel doing that. Your reasons may feel better for one job than another. Also, imagine telling someone and then NOT caring what they think becuase you made the right decision for you! Sometimes we want to please people and do the thing we think they want, but it doesn’t please them anyway. You really do have to first do what makes you happy. So, make sure you’re thinking about how you’d feel about deciding on the job, or saying no to something, rather than thinking about what someone else’s reaction is going to be. It’s hard to do but makes things easier in the long run!
This is such a good way to approach decisions. On sunday I finally said out loud that I thought I wasn’t going to take the job to Zach’s girlfriend and then I was so unsettled about it. Finally talking about choices out loud really makes a difference.
I hate lemonade too!! HA!
I just started using Dropbox to get pics from my phone to my computer. Seems to be working ok….I haven’t used it for anything else so far…sounds like I need to steer clear?
I use it for the pictures thing too… I think it’s just because I was using it to transfer files between computers.
I’m sorry you lost everything! That is definitely a lemon situation that calls for a drink with the umbrella. And maybe some tears too, I cry when things break. I used to hate change, with a passion. Literally it would make me the meanest person ever who goes nuts until I got used to it. I think now though I do better. I have been with the same company for 5 years now, and change is an everyday thing, so I just fly with it. Say no now, I suck at that. Stay strong is all i got!
I’m a crier too. I’ve already shed some tears twice. I’ll stay strong. LOL, thanks. That’s probably the best advice ever.
Maren, don’t think of it as saying “no:” rather, think of it as saying “yes,” which you are also doing, right? Make a list of what you would REGRET NOT doing before you die. It’s not the same as wants; it’s more needs–things that define you. Be honest!
That’s why I wrote my book over the past year. I would have regretted not writing and publishing something if I were to die. It was difficult because I missed having students, but it was necessary to my essence. Now that my book is published, I feel more complete as a person. Decide what will make you feel that way. :)
Thats a really great way of looking at it… I totally wasn’t thinking about it like that.
If you want to learn how to be a normal person I’m not sure if I’m the best one to talk to….plus I also don’t deal super-well with change and hate making decisions in a major way, and then I usually put of making the decision (especially if it’s a tough one) and then I feel worse. So my major advice don’t keep putting it off, and also, I find that the more self-confidence I have, the better I am at making decisions. If I feel really badly about myself, I tend to procrastinate things more, and that just doesn’t make anything better. PS…sorry about your dropbox fiasco…that majorly sucks!
HAHA! Un normal peoples are my favorite.
That is so true about self confidence. I need to take a few confidence pills then think about this one… maybe the answer would come easier.
If you find some of those confidence pills, I’d take a couple…haha.
I am so horrible at telling someone no, mainly because I don’t want to hurt someones feelings. I dislike conflict SO much and I would rather just be miserable than disturb anyone. That said, saying no and learning how to do it in a way that is right is something that I am learning. :)
So sorry you lost all of your work!!
Me too! I’m exactly the same way. I’m learning how to say no too… it’s darn hard.
Just know that in the end, your heart will lead you to the right decision. I usually let my head lead, but sometimes ya gotta go with heart!! PS-LOVING your nail polish :-)
Thanks Jessica that’s so true. You’re heart usually knows what’s best.
The nail polish is my new favorite. It’s Revlon and the name has something to do with mint… I bought it at Target. So fun!!!